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  • Writer's pictureEliza Jane

Elevate Your Wedding Speeches and Avoid These Mistakes...

Hello, lovely couples and cherished bridal party members! I’m Eliza, the proud owner and lead planner at Eliza Jane Events. One of the most special moments at any wedding is hearing the heartfelt speeches delivered by the bridal party. These speeches can bring laughter, happy tears, and a deep sense of connection among everyone present. However, writing and delivering a wedding speech can be a daunting task. Today, I’m here to share some key tips and an outline to help you craft a memorable and meaningful wedding speech.

Introduction & Express Gratitude

Start with a warm and engaging introduction. Briefly introduce yourself and your relationship to the couple. This sets the stage and lets the audience know why you’re standing up there.

Maybe steer clear of the overly used phrase, "For those of you who don't know me"

Thank everyone involved in making the wedding day special. This includes the parents of the couple, other members of the bridal party, and any other significant contributors. Acknowledging their efforts adds a touch of grace and appreciation.

Share a Story & Highlight the Couple’s Qualities

Share a lighthearted and appropriate story about the couple or your relationship with them. Choose a story that highlights their love, character, or a pivotal moment in their relationship. Make sure it’s something that the audience will appreciate and that won’t embarrass anyone.

Talk about the qualities you admire in both the bride and groom. This could include their kindness, sense of humor, dedication, or any other traits that make them a wonderful couple. It’s a great way to show your love and respect for them.

Words of Wisdom & Closing

Offer some thoughtful advice or well-wishes for the couple’s future. This could be a quote, a piece of advice from your own experience, or a wish for their happiness and success.

End with a heartfelt toast. Raise your glass and invite everyone to join you in celebrating the newlyweds. A simple and sincere closing can leave a lasting impression.

What to Avoid in Your Wedding Speech

While it’s important to include meaningful and heartfelt content, there are a few things you should avoid to ensure your speech remains respectful and enjoyable for everyone.

Avoid Discussing Dating History & Keep Personal Stories in Check

Refrain from talking about the couple’s past relationships or any dating history. This can be uncomfortable and inappropriate for the occasion. Focus on their present love and future together instead.

While sharing a personal story is a great way to connect with the audience, avoid going too deep into personal anecdotes. Long-winded or overly intimate stories can lose the audience’s interest and may not be suitable for everyone present.

Steer Clear of Inside Jokes & Don’t Overindulge in Alcohol

Inside jokes can alienate the majority of the audience who might not understand the context. Stick to stories and comments that everyone can appreciate and enjoy.

While a little liquid courage can help ease nerves, avoid drinking too much before giving your speech. You want to be clear-headed and composed, ensuring your speech is delivered with grace and sincerity.

Just remember...

Be Yourself

Authenticity is key. Speak from the heart and let your personality shine through. Whether you’re naturally funny, sentimental, or somewhere in between, being genuine will resonate with the audience.

Practice, Practice, Practice

Practice your speech multiple times before the big day. This will help you become more comfortable with the material and ensure a smoother delivery. Consider practicing in front of a friend or in front of a mirror to gain confidence.

Keep It Concise

Aim to keep your speech between three to five minutes. This is long enough to convey your message but short enough to keep everyone’s attention. Remember, it’s about quality, not quantity.

Use Notes Sparingly

It’s okay to have notes or an outline, but try not to read directly from them. Engaging with the audience and making eye contact will make your speech more impactful and memorable.

Breathe and Pause

Take your time. It’s normal to feel nervous, but remember to breathe and pause when needed. This will help you maintain your composure and give the audience a moment to absorb your words.

Enjoy the Moment

Remember, this is a special moment for the couple and for you. Enjoy the experience and cherish the opportunity to share your feelings and well-wishes.

Crafting a wedding speech is an honor and a privilege. By following these tips and guidelines, you can create a speech that is heartfelt, engaging, and memorable for everyone involved. At Eliza Jane Events, we understand the importance of every moment on your special day. If you need any assistance with planning or guidance, feel free to reach out to us. We’re here to help make your wedding day as perfect and stress-free as possible.

Venue pictured: The Highline

Planning & Design: Eliza Jane Events

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